Minor's sexual behavior too early Adolescence prominent educational problem

Minor's sexual behavior too early Adolescence prominent educational problem
Minor's sexual behavior too early Adolescence prominent educational problem
In interview, mention, educate, demonstrate one attitude of commonplace from teacher to expert adolescence, think this topic has already been called for a lot of years, can not attract the sight that people pay close attention to. Can in fact, of new generation child grow up, stand up whenever, question it looks like one glaciers that does not melts millennium to be horizontal in front of them adolescence. Parents are still ashamed, the teacher still takes great pains to guard a secret, the children are still curious. Having called for a lot of years, the problem remained as before, and with the popularization of the network, the webpage of adult's content overflows, more and more the intersection of teenagers and sex that tape sprout educated and dredged to lack wish eagerly, go on slip, the intersection of violence and road of crime, how do well, seem more urgent to educate adolescence nature, shoulder heavy responsiblities further too. Is not there better method to dredge? Can't let the children pass by adolescence steadily and safely and happily, enter smoothly to grow up? Our education is often stopped up simply in the past, thought that did not allow teenagers to know the truth, can let them keep thought and behavioral purity. Nowadays, the increasingly many person realizes, the sex is not " dreadful monsters " ,It is not a basic method which solves the problem to conceal, moreover, nowadays a information-intensive society, child channel to obtain information as adult many, it stops up to be to stop up. Just as Da Yu harnesses the river, can not stop up, can only dredge. In young boys and girls' normal contacts, who has told boys, how should you go to express the hidden emotion, let oneself be unlikely to be too awkward, unlikely to lose self-respect, let the other side not turn out too ashamed? Who has told the young girl, have the boy who likes you because you are very outstanding, they can express the impression of you, this is their right. You can refuse, but should not injure their self-respect. In fact, sprout in the face of the muddleheaded youth, they are mostly at a loss as to what to do. Educate improper, let they to the intersection of sex and the intersection of production and fear and crime sense probably. So, instead of preventing firmly, it would be better to encourage children to tell one's own true idea with the attitude that shows loving care for, accepts, face the youthful puzzlement with them, lead them to understand emotion is beautiful, also need the responsible one. The fruit plucked too early, the ones that bring are besides the happiness for the moment, probably also with the bitterness all the life. Several years ago, releasing the news of the condom free had initiated one to discuss warmly in the university, this year, " truth of the life, easy and sex " It causes fierce dispute again to list in the decisions of large and medium school required courses in Yunnan Province, topic that educate what be always the focus adolescence, why is always the difficult point? What a way of promoting education of according with the sex of the China's actual conditions, it is still a question. How to spend in adolescence - -The little shellfish and small and blue and green is a pair of students in Senior three, because two people like each other and go closer and closer, develop into the friends of men and women gradually. But got along for some time, two people always quarrelled, not merely influenced the emotion, and caused interfering with seriously in studying. Under two people discuss, determine to go to the psychological hospital to carry on consultation, seek the solution. "It was a lot of that the class fell in love now. " The little shellfish says. At the gate of one high school in our city, reach each time and play and study time, student lover in pairs is shaking hands to pass by affectionately, self-assuredly at the gate, once in a while " Husband " Or " wife " Call float in the ears,passerby on it is nearby capital face the fearful with no fears too. "Present children are early-maturing, and will not evade as before. " The market psychological director Zhang YanPing of Shijiazhuang says. Internet highly developed today, children that the youth sprouts are encountering the impact that the color of feeling is luring. Engaged in the marriage and family and an old a Jun of famous scholar which the teenagers educated, investigate, the sex educational problem to the minors of our country is very worried through the following of nearly 10 years. She says, the network that the teenagers in whole world had is the same, the video seen is the same too. Present TV programme, lens emerging in an endless stream, yardstick of embracing, kissing etc. is bold, the TV play is not graded - -People that marry think so, but the children open eyes wide and look, those things sex psychology and sex to them are excited, there is great enticement and agitate. Many children are under the stimulus of the media, can't control oneself, make out and " taste and prohibit fruits secretly " Tragedy. Chinese teenagers' reproduction health survey reveals, in the women teenagers with sexual behavior, 21.3% of the people have had pregnant experiences, 4.9% of the people have had numerous pregnant experiences, after the accident is pregnant, the person who chooses induced abortion exceeds 86%. Pregnant before marrige and induced abortion is threatening the healthy reproduction of women teenagers. It is introduced, a lot of hospitals will welcome the peak that a young girl had an abortion after finishing one month every winter and summer vacation. Have parents' company to come, there is oneself that comes too, other boys do not dare to come, the girl has an abortion by oneself. Still let the doctor say a bit more quickly that has only asked for half days off, will go back to have a class - -Not only take a good rest, not supply nutrition but also nobody goes to attend to her, because can not let parents know, can't let the teacher know, she just annexes the bitter pill alone quietly either. What is the question that leads to the fact finally? On the current media, two kinds of advertisements are high-frequency: One is the painless stream of people, one is the infertile sterility of treatment. It has refracted a reality deeply: The intersection of minor and sexual behavior too early, understand protective measure, cause the heavy wound to body and mind. In the sixties of last century, the west initiated a vigorous sexual liberation, a large number of young girls are pregnant to have an abortion. In the last half a centrury, consequences making people grieved that in U.S.A. and Britain, nearly 1/3 of the women can't bear, they have to raise cats and raise dogs, adopt the child Boy is there consequence all,let by girlfriend unintentionally boy heavy losses that be had an abortions pregnant later, his psychological burden is very heavy, feeling guilty, regretting, shame, it is old to mix the five flavours. Hereafter, this pair of students' relation can't go down normally. Later when boy and opposite sex associate, will add a lot and hesitate, a lot hesitate, a lot are puzzled, even complicated mind such as much fear. So young boys and girls tasted and prohibited fruits secretly, the physiological consequence was born by girl, but the psychological shade will influence men and women all one's life. Educational blind spot of adolescence - -Educate adolescence, vast and hazy the intersection of companion and frightened young boys and girls that enter adolescence, because of the function of hormone, begin to produce the curiosity, mystique and even feeling adored to the opposite sex, the calf love and sex are a question that can't be avoided. But at home, 90% of the parents all pretend not to know " this matter " ,Have never exchanged the question in this respect with the child; In the school, it itself Content. A lot of children of result make a mistake because of being ignorant, and is injured. What is it about if they know, she can prevent one at least Some things. It is known that anything when being in close relations can be done with the boy, know that in case pregnant that where to check to deal with should go ing. The young people of today, may be exposed to the picture and text related to sex at any time, parents do not say, the school does not say, the children have impulse of the sexual behavior before getting ready, the impermissible behaviour unavoidably takes place. Mother is bringing 15 -year-old son to look for Zhang Yan to be flat to consult, say the son does not dare to go out to summer. Through inquiring, Zhang YanPing finds, because this boy always likes gazing at women's chest stealthily, the crime that himself feel very much, especially in summer, woman mostly wear weak clothes, he thinks it unable to control one's own eyes even more, have to hide and does not dare to go out at home. But the one that faced children to sex is puzzled and excited, parents do not know how to explain the child, do not even know how to communicate with the child effectively, understand their idea, until present the comparatively serious psychological problem, did not have to turn to experts for help. In the face of adolescence, why do not parents say one thinks that it is unnecessary to say. A lot of parents are influenced by culture and tradition, under the environment that an individual character confines, regard the sex as the mine field. There are not people that say, think that it is unnecessary to tell children when oneself is young. Second, knowledge is deficient, I wonder how to talk. Can't " say " ,This is a lot of parents' true reflection. A mother finds Zhang YanPing, say crying: "My son is masturbation, why is he so shameless? " Some getting red parents face try with the intersection of child and education and communication of person who go on, but the result exchanged still just gets rid of and gives them several educational books in adolescence. Hardly realize, the child in adolescence wishes eagerly parents can exchange equally, but conflict such icy educational pattern very much. (reporter Shi YaBin)


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