Went home a few days ago every year --The intersection of kindred and calculation question - help you regard as still can accompany how long it will be parents

Went home a few days ago every year --The intersection of kindred and calculation question - help you regard as, still can accompany how long it will be parents
Went home a few days ago every year --The intersection of kindred and calculation question - help you regard as, still can accompany how long it will be parents
From " 1+1 =2" At the beginning, we are doing countless arithmetic problems in all one's life. While going to school, the arithmetic problem is homework and examination that must be finished; After the work, begin to calculate incomes, calculate the expenses; After marrying and giving birth to babies, how much can buy an apartment calculate and deposit, or raise a child. You can calculate, how long can oneself still accompany parents? Then, there is no harm in doing this " calculation question of the kindred " spreading in the network extensively recently --Suppose you with parents separate two places, annual you can go back several times, how many days is once? Remove and treat the friend with courtesy, sleep, how much time do you have really with parents? The Chinese average life span is 72 years old, even if parents can live to the age of 85, how long can also you get along with parents on earth this lifetime? Accompany the Mummy for 25 days again and again This model which causes the national net friend's sympathetic response, while coming from the net of Shanxi Evening to have a chat first. One net friend these one since " The kindred bill " Shine after on net, having caused the sympathetic response of countless people, many people realize suddenly, it is in the future it is to see parents it can only unexpectedly do without number of times with " Time " Come to count. Net friend " stranger flower mo " Reply raw heart miserable: "This lifetime, perhaps I can only get along with mother for 25 days. Graduate, stay in Chongqing and work, just goes home once on the Spring Festival in one year, the time really at home is less than 5 days. In 5 days, probably have 3 days to go out and treat with courtesy, have a get-together. Except left time have a meal, sleep and do shopping in the street, really can accompany mum's time probably have only 20 hours. My mother is 55 years old this year, if Heaven is concerned about her and can live to the age of 85, in 30 years in most lonely those of hers, I can around her time less than 600 hour, only 25 day, less than one month! " She says: "Calculate behind the result, I cry, feel, very much feel ashamed and regretful, unfair to mother, I really want to meet mother at once. " Shen Fan that live together with parents bright to do question this too. "I live at home graduate, parents want, go to work daytime, so get along really have only those 1 hours such as supper. I probably have 3 days to have supper at home every week, that is to say, the time with mother is only 3 hours every week me, it is 156 hours in one year. Mother is 50 years old, if she can live to the age of 85, my time to accompany him is 5460 hours, it is equivalent to 227.5 days, only more than months for 7. Situation that this also excludes my getting married afterwards and they live in separately. " The soup of southwest psychological director of referral centre of psychological institute of university is grand forever to do this question too: "My mother is 70 years old this year, live in Taiwan, I will have a holiday for one month every year. Suppose she lives to the age of 85, I can accompany her for 8 hours every day when going home, then I can also accompany her for 3600 hours, only 150 it. Certainly, this is the most ideal state, without disease, accident, there is no extra dinner party, actual time will also certainly shrink. " Children are all of the parents', and how many fen parents take again in children's mind? A lot of persons who has calculated the calculation question of this kindred, all can't help shedding the tears, repent in oneself this emotion to parents is neglected. The modern life is kept very busy by them, it takes a large number of time to fulfil one's duty to one's parents to account for, parents became one mao ignored instead; Someone around, can only repent, meet last side into in all one's life when parents passed away even. The modern will have grown up gradually, has left parents' sight gradually if the modern presents every individual of a omission of the filial piety. School, society, friend, lover, strange land, drifting Pulling open the distance between us and parents little by little, but the time left for parents contracted and contracted again in one year. The social psychology associate professor Yue XiaoDong of City University of Hong Kong says, for a lot of people, it fulfils one's duty to one's parents to be forever " In the future " Sum, " when being immature " . If needn't work overtime tomorrow evening, I will phone parents; If there is no dinner party on weekend, I come back home to have a look; If I am free, I will want to lead parents to go out to play; If I am rich, I will buy a large house to put them through to at one's side "A lot of people will until lines of kindred calculation question visibly moved like this, because they although heart check appreciation to parents, but often want much, speak much, do little. " Wife's parents know the east to explain. Soup forever grand to show have perhaps one, while calculated, whom people see only figure too, but the bit that once got along with parents: Nestle by parents everyday in childhood, separate two places and meet the number of times fewly till now. "Such a one is calculated, will start we and parents direct induction installation, let a lot of people scrutinize one's own conduct again. " President of Chinese psychological society Zhang Kan says. The reason why will appear " The filial piety is said " Omission,first, not last education for children. Yue XiaoDong says, a lot of Chinese parents overly regard child as the centre, that parents remember the child's birthday forever, but a lot of people have never celebrated birthday for parents. This kind of child whose educational environment grew up, will regard oneself as the centre too, and is seldom feeling considering parents. Second, a lot of people think " There is ample time for doing sth. " . To who talk busy, as bold and assured to whom parents talk, that accompany plan of parents, always postpone again and again. Hardly realize, parents will always go in our neglect fast. It is needless that as it always goes, " the son wants to be raised and kissed " ,The limited kindred data of that script, decrease progressively on our account book ceaselessly, will always belong to zero some day. A telephone number, once celebrate one's birthday, a covert payment, transmit and care for whenever and wherever possible Long Yingtai, famous writer of Taiwan, had written: "What is called the intersection of father and daughter and mother and son, mean you and fate of him to follow figure of him with one's eyes, go far gradually constantly in this life only. You stand on one end of the path seeing him fading at the place where the path turned, and he tells you quietly with the figure: Needn't chase. " High mountain the east think a lot of the intersection of people and oneself can understand parents have requirement actually few to children behind parents dawn, it is often contacted that only, newspaper one is safe and inquiring after one's well-being. And to unable to observe in the intersection of parents and around people, we ask many experts to provide " way to fulfil one's duty to one's parents " too . 1.Lay out one's own life. Tang YongLong says: "Children make one's own day too kind, have steady work and income, get married earlier, the relation with people around is harmonious and happy, solve the greatest worries of parents. " Mustn't depend on parents unduly, regard them as " Teller-Stella " in life Have with the emotion " The garbage bin " . Professor of Peking University sociology department Xia XueLuan thinks too, parents think that let, my child is the most reliable, this is the greatest filial piety. "As to a pair of children of mine, I do not require them to keep around everyday, but when we have the need, they want Can step forward bravely. " 2.Hardworking " wish good health " . In the ancient big family, all have a system wish gooded health. Now, if? It keep fit if you can't chock, change completely ridge Pian sheath school �� tritium Huan Chen tip be struck to if you can't rue, grant �� the Huaihe River to endanger gull �� of �� 1 Ge change to compose locust Quan � Gui of Wu 1 �� mean probably slender and delicate to last �� tips towering to be permitted Does the sister intimidate Jiao? -2 telephones, this telephone should be made voluntarily by children. The system should carry out strictly, can't with busy, tired and having no time to look on as the reason. Since can accompany time of parents bring, work, amuse, treat with courtesy, why push out of, accompany parents by some in the times? 3.Say more that " makes nonsense " . While exchanging with parents, say some more " inquire after one's well-being " Nonsense,even if you can't listen to by that parents, chatter. For example ask parents what's for breakfast,lunch and dinner, it is played that where went, the short topic in these parents, the ones that can be shown among relatives most just are on intimate terms. The soup is recalled dish in Longhui forever: "I am while receiving the undergraduate education in Japan, once it is a bit unnatural to recognize mother from the telephone, question repeatedly, just know she just finished moving the operation. " A lot of parents afraid child to be anxious, have difficulty, fall ill, will hide from, say, the children must set one's heart. 4.Celebrate one's birthday for parents. Though a lot of old men say in the mouth " It is unwilling to celebrate birthday " ,But children have to take seriously. Can play the kitchen and cook a meal for parents in person on birthday at ordinary times; It must be grand and over that 50, 60, 70 is such on the birthday, children try hard to all come back to parents' side. Congratulate on birthday, to the intersection of parents and repayment of love and care, let the intersection of parents and proud one way. 5.Celebrate the New Year for parents to issue the covert payment. The child pays the bill parents always decline, no matter they do not really need or say in the mouth, it is annual to been each time, propose the children with an income all issue a piece of covert payment to parents, it can be from appearing inside too that the old man gives the grandson people's money given to children as a lunar New year gift. 6.Let parents enjoy " Separate and take the place of kissing " . Parents see incompletely forever to grandson and grandson people. After having children to get married oneself, must take child to see parents more, while phoning each time, also encourage child's grand-mother's grandfather with grandparents, grandmother to speak more, this is the thing making parents gladdest.


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