The monthly sister-in-law trade falls into the trust crisis Since the employer is more similar than to hire and go through - history of tragic experience-

The monthly sister-in-law trade falls into the trust crisis Since the employer is more similar than to hire and go through - history of tragic experience-
The monthly sister-in-law trade falls into the trust crisis Since the employer is more similar than to hire and go through - history of tragic experience-
In Jinan, the in great more demand the monthly sister-in-law with the higher star is, the booking half years ahead of time of the stars of four stars five. The picture is that the monthly sister-in-law is accepting training. (the materials and pictures) "I have fried four in one month. " "This, it is history of a tragic experience. " Family go through sister-in-law add full-time the intersection of mother and ShaoLing Zhou of nurse several month, count one by one, invite experience of nurse with friend sometimes, the ones that were irritated in in ears are these " Keenly felt pain " . "Handle the relation with nurse, monthly sister-in-law, much more complicated than to look after the child. " "It is difficult to look for the monthly sister-in-law, look for the monthly sister-in-law well extremely difficultly. " In sighing for sound numerously, Song Yuan and nurse's relation in 14 years are nearly " a miracle" . But it happens, seems to witness the becoming and not changing of some things in any case. Why do you require others to treat you as the friend? Before the several month, move into behind the square meter of new houses, week little the intersection of tinkling of pieces of jade and heart ruthlessly, determine not to renew a contract with the nurse again. This full-time mother a little over 30, attention is mostly put on child. Zhou ShaoLing's husband did business of the real estate, their family successively invited the sister-in-law for three months, there are four nurses, another Philippine servant in the family at most. The second child of Zhou ShaoLing's is twins, monthly sister-in-law of 24 hours looking for it, four stars, do for 8 hours, monthly salary is 2000 yuan; Twins, add 500 yuan; 24 hours, the salary is turned over time. Calculate like this, this nurse's salary is 5000 yuan. However, Zhou ShaoLing discovers quickly, spends money more, monthly sister-in-law that may not be certain to find and is satisfied with. For example, this " four-star hotel " After the monthly sister-in-law folds the clean sheet, a buttocks sits above. "She says and flattens with the buttocks. " Breast-feeding the powder for children at midnight, she will drop feeding bottle to the ground. Zhou ShaoLing's mother still finds, the monthly sister-in-law drinks the milk power left with the child's feeding bottle directly, "even if she pour drink getting advisable in bowl, don't drink to the mouth directly. " The second, " before signing the contract smilingly, look very clean " ,But lacked the tinkling of pieces of jade at home in weeking only stays for one week, because she has " never smiled after entering home, has felt angry all the time, it is not good to the child like this " . Later, one and husband's part-timer that come to the town to work as a temporary labourer became the nurse of her home. The rural woman very tangible, because " whether son go to school need money " as nurse . In the housekeeping waiter of elder sister's company of sunshine of Jinan, more than half of comes from the countryside like this nurse who Zhou ShaoLing took. Zhou ShaoLing wants to treat her as very much the friend treat. She bore in the heart in mind constantly, is a elder brother's wife of that month invited while giving birth to the eldest daughter, it is five years since sister-in-law has already left this month, "look after my eldest daughter very well, I manage nothing. " Zhou ShaoLing makes many efforts, to do the relation with nurse well. One day, the nurse said, one's own child often heard from classmate in the class, how delicious Pizza of Pizza hut is, but he has never eaten. "I have listened to to turn sour in the heart, because my daughter has fedded up with. " Soon, mother of ShaoLing Zhou go Pizza hut, she let mother buy more first Pizza, have wrapped a half up to the nurse. Zhou ShaoLing often goes to Hong Kong to do shopping, she promises to nurse, waits for two home children to be a little bigger, take them the intersection of Hong Kong and Disneyland play, because " whether the intersection of they and economic terms of house can not go at all " . Several minor matters happened before several months, Zhou ShaoLing can't help at last. A pair of twins of Zhou ShaoLing's get pneumonia, go to the hospital to have an injection more at 4 o'clock in the afternoon of one day, the nurse replies: "I should come off duty at 5 o'clock, what if it is late? " After moving, the nurse proposes again, the job site wants to go to work in 20 minutes late far. "Before this, has already let her go to work in 30 minutes late, is not it considered for me why she is so? " Zhou ShaoLing can not accept. The husband has been trying to persuade Zhou ShaoLing all the time, has treated the nurse as family members. "Do you think so, will they think so too? A lot of friends say too, treat the other side as few the friends each other. But, why do you require others to treat you as the friend? The nurse is a nurse. " The ones that had not risen salary in 14 " The miracle " 40 -year-old Song Yuan is proud secretly to own some nurses. Song Yuan is a staff member of a public institution in the provincial capital. The nurse, maternity leave give whom she look after the child later in stop by Yuan Song. Jinan of 1997, without a medium company, can only introduce through the acquaintance, the nurse did not divide the star either, the service level is to use employer's mouth according to legend. Song Yuan's elder brother hears " This nurse does pretty well " ,Find her over. Chat meet, Song know they two mother of people live at the same building far. The nurse people in middle age, has never had stable work, family's condition is general. Wait for children to go to school, the nurse gives to her family belongings part-timer, cook a meal, sweep family's hygiene every day, have flashed in the past 14 years. There is thing that wants not to be open, the nurse always looks for Song Yuan, sell her the worry to listen to. Song Yuan " can try to persuade people very well not " ,At this time, she will serve as the audience quietly. Mother-in-law of Yuan Song chatter in front of grandson often at first nurse, the son mechanicallied repeat for mother, Song Yuan has criticized the son resolutly: Can't say a nurse later, must call her an empress. "This minor matter, his empress especially moves. " Song Yuan chatters to the son: Papa and Mama are busy, without time, your empress comes to help when our home is very difficult, come to look after you. On New Year's Day and other festivals, the Song 's will send a lot of fishes and shrimps, edible oil and fruits and vegetables, Song increases the welfare to nurse's mother's relative by marriage a stream of brains far. For the moment, according to the quotations in Jinan, it will not basically be less than the salary of 1000 yuan to do to these living nurses. Song Yuan has never risen the salary for a nurse, the nurse has not withdrawn either, her salary has been 400 yuan all the time. This salary, in the words of Song Yuan, place on present nurse's market, it is " a miracle " . " the household bears the chance only at one time now " An enterprise makes to the staff member's Yang Ting in Jinan, hers is " after 80 " The friend has different views on employing the monthly sister-in-law. Since hitting the monthly sister-in-law and entering home, the child has never used the panty-shape diapers, all diaper has been thrown to the monthly sister-in-law, "save money like this. " This white collar with good job, the experience taught for Yang Ting is: "Sister-in-law employ to work these months, spend, use the money in vain. " A school, as the teacher's Wang Hua, the monthly sister-in-law invited was introduced by classmate Cao Ling in Jinan, because Cao Ling's colleague reflects, the sister-in-law " works well very much " this month . Cao Ling's colleague is one " It is very strict to require " Person,say she, use must training nurse,send away she work easily, "getting along familiar with very muches, yes Some words are not easy to make commentary instead, the employer-employee relationship is the actually simplest. " She thinks, that kind of " faithful to husband till death " Nurse,can only exist on last century? Does shellfish � bright �� of ��'s basketry of inner feeling tomb play? Wang Hua's younger brother's wife has spent 3000 yuan inviting monthly sister-in-law when being born the child in 2009 in Guangzhou. In confinement, the younger brother's wife commands so that running around in circles monthly sister-in-law and mother-in-law of father-in-law serving confinement, include washing the specialized wash-basin of the clothes for babies, must sterilize before using each time. What even work together to see the baby, let others wear gauze mask too, " this looks like! " Wang Hua's mother can not bear very much. "I understand, why she likes inviting the monthly sister-in-law. Bring others child, oneself light, but monthly sister-in-law to take money, do things in spoken parts in an opera, it is not bad to meet the conscientious one, meet the one without sense of responsibility, just as going to work, so bad gets the salary. " Wang Hua's mother phones to complain about the daughter-in-law with the daughter privately, " you see her, one is as the mother, the child woke up without wishing oneself to feed the milk of port in the evening, let the monthly sister-in-law stand up and breast-feed the powder, the household must have a rest too in the evening! " Younger brother's wife of Hua Wang terms fine in her parent's home, in this piece " after the 80 " It seems, " can bring the money and solve the problem, it is all out of question. " Awkward that Wang Hua's younger brother sandwiches, try to persuade mother from little county town and " don't love the money " privately ,"The household bears the chance only at one time now, which looked like you that year, can grow several! " The family wants Ann to control, would you come? Mild and roundabout much ShaoLing Zhou. She was exactly in confinement at that time, liked the network to purchase, a component luxury goods are sent to the family. Zhou ShaoLing seals off contentedly, the nurse sees these bags that she has never seen wrapped up in surprise too aside. The nurse asks how much these suitcases are, few tinkling of pieces of jade are not very willing to say in week. "She must have heard of these brands, I am afraid she thinks: Oneself work hard one make money this month, she must buy a bag as many as ten thousand. " Zhou ShaoLing thinks the nurse very sensitive, " is careless that the employer speaks quite a lot, but somehow, will irritate them. " Paying the Philippine servant employing it of more than 70,000 yuan in one year, Zhou ShaoLing has not thought as the legend it is good. "However, they will not be as sensitive as domestic nurse. In addition, can speak English, it is helpful for child to study languages. " The salary of this Philippine servant is 3500 yuan, Zhou ShaoLing's family will bear return ticket and annual certificate fee that she visited one's relatives once every two years. Even if so, in Jinan, such a Philippine servant is very in great demand. Yang Ting finds too, it is very sensitive to their call to others to bring the child's monthly elder brother's wife and nurse downstairs, the person in the courtyard understands too, call them the child's " auntie " . Likewise, talk with people each time, elder sister of Jinan sunshine the intersection of housekeeping and high jade sesame, Vice President of service company, always correct " nurse " This statement, this has already become her habit. In her view, to " nurse " Appropriate call is " Housekeeping waiter " . "Respect each other and understand, most difficult to deal with in the employer-employee relationship, it is the most important problem too. " It is not an example to eat the leftovers leftovers, increase the situation of the work load in working time. In the sunshine elder sister's trade trains, there are eight projects regarding employer and housekeeping person respected and understood each other. "Why just call respect? Respect that is just called respect on personality. " Gao YuZhi says. If who Xin Shen the intersection of Hunan and the intersection of Satellite TV and the intersection of housekeeping and program of serving etc. " take home ", he says, establishes the inspiration of this program, ones that stemmed from colleague, kith and kin around and looked for the nurse, monthly sister-in-law are extremely difficult, think that it can unquestionably be angry to do this program. In order to meet various demands of all kinds of families, group's soldier divides the program into No. ten, hurry to all parts of the country, search personnel of all kinds of high-quality housekeeping. Master to the lactogenic monthly sister-in-law of gold medal of massage of Chinese medicine, can let various babies " sleep second " Child-bearing sister-in-law,last cleaners of dust,even house keepers all-round, fill with everything. "This kind of program, can represent abundant social relationships, family and personage relation, it is necessary to worth excavating. The whole trade is a kind of agreement relation, this needs equality, including psychological one itself. " This is called by net friend " "Look for a nurse with the way of the program of blindlying date " Program,start broadcasting on fire, be come those, it look for by sister-in-law, the families of nurses monthly, some require " Three lacks the nurse " : There are few words, money (salary) Lack and thing little, the intersection of some and " family take Ann control " . One is accidentally drop when the employer of CEO, the persons who require the housekeeping are familiar with various clothes surface fabric, so as not to iron clothes; Meanwhile, the housekeeping person can't " move a finger " to the pet dog of his family ,Because the dog of his family kisses just the same as his relative; But the housekeeping person coming to apply for a job requires employers " Absolutely believe in her " ,Because " believe in " It is a kind of investment. This program is started broadcasting so far since September of this year, the scene " succeeds hand in hand " Not many. Unless it have media afterwards solve, to succeeding in not breaking up too privately with one that lead along by hand in head,because " platform, a lot of practical problems all appeared " . Is it very difficult to believe in the sense and set up? Hitting the monthly sister-in-law and entering the door, Wang Hua finds, oneself heart " dark " . Sometimes, when the monthly sister-in-law is taking children to breast-feed in the sitting room or bath child in the bathroom alone, Wang Hua will follow the past unconsciously, even needn't go forward to help, she would like to stare at silently. She is unwilling to let the nurse see oneself is nearby. If can not go away by oneself, she will wink for the mother-in-law, let mother-in-laws follow. "The child is not the nurse's, does she know so diligently? Is there resentment? " One day, Wang Hua really can't help, asks to the monthly sister-in-law, " will it be irritated to look after the child everyday? " A minor matter that Zhou ShaoLing goes through is felt by her, trust is in fact a very simple thing. The eldest daughter has lost a very valuable gem ring of hers, looked for and had not found for a long time, but one or two months later, after the nurse finishes sweeping the hygiene, found that ring, send to week and lack the tinkling of pieces of jade in the hand. "I have never told a nurse the price of this ring. " This makes Zhou ShaoLing clear, the nurse is not " stranger " coming to the family . The move that Wang Hua had once had for oneself is a bit guilty. In the night before walking of monthly sister-in-law, she signals the husband and puts the bag on the sofa away, because there is thousands of yuan inside, fear the nurse took the money to run. But in seem than Wang China large 10 -year-old Yuan Song, in appear by oneself the distrust for over ten years. "Now everybody says that it is very difficult to employ a good nurse, in fact both sides lack mutual trust. Though everybody understands, easier said than done in this kind of reason. " Song Yuan says. << Who take home>> in,there is be housekeeping serve family concerning foreign affairs. Though concerning foreign affairs family as Chinese to speak emotion, speak relation, they go out have a holiday, will rest assure of giving the key of the family to the nurse. Act as? Wu D ��, Yu of ��, brag Mian of Yi �� the intersection of skill and �� prepare against emperor, wine with dregs of core, depend on ���� holds Ju high confusingly Is parrot's happy plinth of surge stomach thin? Xin Shen in understanding in this, believe in objective environment that exist, lie in the trade norm make well. The trade is unstandard, will produce the crisis that this kind of trust has. However, " the lose of this kind of trust, have something to do with social environment that we live in to a certain extent. " (reporter Ren Peng)


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